Two friends meet at a cupcake café
Using sweet smiles to assure each other –
They’re each okay.
But the smiles begin to wobble, the
Conversation wiggles as each reveal
A grief that is separate yet shared.
One woman now a widow, pining for
Her love of half a century, he’s gone
Yet still so alive in her heart.
The other woman is steadfast as she
Cares for a once robust husband whose
Brain is bespeckled with fog.
Two friends meet at a cupcake café
Using sweet smiles that release into
Expressions more sincere, more real.
Two friends allow each other to shed
A tear, to moan about what once was
While easing each other’s loads.
An hour later, cupcake consumed,
Two friends nod at each other, mirroring
understanding, and depart with fierce hugs.

Heart breaking, Pam. As a general rule, one partner must outlive the other 💔
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But the one who outlives is never really prepared ….
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Just perfect, and something I think about almost every day.
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I think through my writing, which helps. This subject seems to be in many hearts.
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We’re all aging!
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so very sad, but happy that they felt close enough to share these things
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YES, female friends can help shoulder burdens/sorrows too heavy for just one.
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This is life. Thankfully we have friends to bear the burden. Well written, Pam. ❤️❤️
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I can’t imagine life without the friends who have been with me on this journey through the ages, and I’m so thankful to be a friend as well. ❤
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A poignant reminder of how important friendship is, Pam!
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Important, and essential, yes, Merril.
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Beautiful!
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Thank you, Kate. xo
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So very touching and real, Pam. Proof how important women’s friendships are. I would be bereft without my girlfriends. We might see each other as regularly as we would like to but when we do cherish it.
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Isn’t that the truth, Dale? I have friends I haven’t seen in ages, yet we text or e-mail or phone each other, it seems, just at the time that’s needed.
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Oh yes! The connection is there.
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The power of best friends and the true value of a friendship–being there for each other. Cupcakes may help ease the way but a strong friendship endures, even after any lengthy absence,
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Cupcakes just sweeten the deal. And the deal is to open up, be vulnerable, talk, listen, and BE THERE. ❤
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I love this moving tribute to friendship.
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Yes, Liz, and it is a ‘moving’ tribute. No matter where we move, or how far away we are from each other, as true friends we are always “there” in some way, shape or form.
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“A grief that is separate yet shared…”
Oof! That hits home. Thank you, Pam. ❤️
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Thanks, Vicki. It goes with one of the quotes you share on your latest blog post: “My mother always told me that inaction is not an option. And neither is going it alone.“
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Whoa my goodness! Look at you…yes! Thanks much, Pam. Absolutely true! 🥰
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Lovely piece.
Having good, close friends is a key to a better life. And the more good, close friends a person has, the better.
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The value of friendship is not taught in schools (as far as I know) and really, it should be. We cannot make it in this world without some precious friends who accept us for who we are and stand by us to keep us strong. And of course, we do the same for our friends.
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A perfect expression of the value of friendships
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Thanks so much, John. Sometimes I find it easier to “say” what I’m feeling in a free verse poem than to show in a story. But perhaps it’s all the same. A good friend is invaluable – and better than all the gold in the world.
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I agree.
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beautiful tribute to the strength of friendship near and far
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Thank you and here’s to the strength of friends who are with us through thick and thin, through good and bad, through the easy and the hard times.
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Ah, Pam I do love this. We will see this through together because we can’t look back; that’s not the way we’re going.❤️
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To paraphrase, “The truth is, unless you let go… you cannot move forward.”
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A beautiful ode to friendship, Pam! Yes, we may seem okay but what lies within the heart is understood only by a friend who can read the eyes.
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Your comment reminds me of the song “The tears of a clown” by The Miracles. We may try to look like we’re “okay,” but a good friend knows better, and helps us feel, and heal.
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Meeting up for coffee is so important and this is so true.
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Thus, cafes of all types, in cities and towns and villages, are essential for friendships and “meet ups.” 🙂
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You bring fresh eyes–and cupcakes!–to friendship as tenuous, yet so terribly important. I’m fortunate to have two groups of girlfriends who meet often enough to make a difference.
As Robbie says about marriage, “One partner will outlive the other.” Sad and true.
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I know, Marian. These kinds of conversations between friends are difficult, painful, and yet so affirming and necessary for each of us. ❤
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My beautiful Pam. No matter how many cupcakes or Cantina dinners we share with good friends, there’s laughter and pain within each of us. The beauty is sharing the burden of our stories with caring friends who listen and comfort each other. I relate to your words and wish you were here to share a cupcake so we can talk about your heart. Your story is beautifully written. I will send it to my sister who lost her husband but he’s still ever present in all of our lives. Your friendship is so important to me. Love you so much.
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Thank you so much Sandi! Oh those Cantina dinners used to soothe all of our hearts within the raucous laughter and a few tears. The memory of them still feels so real and so wonderful. I’m glad you can share this with your sister. 😘
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