Mother, may I laugh with you, even as you breathe
out your last memory on the Covid floor?
Oh the days we laughed, once I was a child no more.
Mother may I remind you of the time we walked 29
“blocks” on the beach of New Jersey’s Ocean City
to lunch at our favorite snack shop? What a pity
that we burned our feet on that hot hot sand
soaking them with water in the shop’s trash can.
Mother may I tell of the times you’d visit us in CA
and housesit for neighbors who had two cats?
You’d never petted a cat in your life, yet didn’t bat
an eye when driving them for their check-up with the vet
with no crate in my car, cats went wild, you had such regret!
Mother may I retell the time you told off the cop
as we drove in my car across the Golden Gate Bridge?
His motorcycle stopped us and how I cringed
as you demanded he not give me a speeding ticket
and “by the way please escort us to our airport trip.”
Mother may I step back in time to our camping trips
to Vermont when I was a child and the family set up a tent
in the woods, the sounds of silence seemed heaven-sent
until in the middle of the night you screamed “Bear!”
and we listened to raccoons eat up all of our fare.
Mother may I applaud you now for your help
when I was soon to get married – no sex talk for sure
But you drove me to a shop with thoughts not pure
as we gazed at flimsy lingerie that made me blush
while you selected items that made my fiancé gush.
Mother may I thank you for all the babysitting
that you volunteered with a smile and a hug
Two little ones two years apart who tugged
your heart as you diapered, read stories, and played
years of Uno and Gin Rummy ‘til your memory did fade.
Mother may I tell you how much I missed
your conversation, your laughter, you’re YOU
as you braved dementia; each day to you was new
My name was a mystery but my love was felt
You kissed my hand as next to you I knelt.
Mother may I say goodbye though from far away
I can’t stroke your forehead or squeeze your hand
A pandemic keeps me from my heart’s demand
So I pray that the spirits of your loved ones long gone
Greet you with warmth and light as you reach a new dawn.
Beautiful words and lovely memories. Sorry for your loss. Andrea xxx
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Thank you so much for reading my memorial poem to my mom, Andrea. 💜
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My heart goes out to you. A beautiful tribute to Mom. I wish you strength for Mothers Day. 🌺 🌻 🤗
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Thank you. 🙏
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Pam, I am sad to hear about your loss. Made so difficult to bear as you couldn’t hold your mother’s hand or kiss her face. Bless you.
Your post is so beautiful and filled with love that it must fill your heart with so many beautiful memories. Strong bonds like these never fade, they always live with us, comfort us and at times makes us laugh.
With time you will find this. Blessings and hug
Miriam
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Your words are so true Miriam. The bond that my mom and I shared will never break. My memories of her are strong and yes many times they make me laugh. Thank you so much for reading my heartfelt poem. 🙏
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My heart breaks for you my dear. A lovely mother and lovely memories. Sending hugs and much love. xo
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We daughters – no matter our age – will always love our moms to eternity. Thank you Darlene. 💜
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Always! 💗
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What beautiful wighting to honour a clearly wonderful woman. I am so sorry that you were unable to say goodbye.
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My mom was one of a kind. But probably each of us say that about our moms. Not being able to say goodbye was devastating, but I truly believe she knew how much she was loved. Thank you Derrick. 🙏
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I don’t know what to say. Thank you for sharing the joy of your mother’s life. Be kind to yourself. -massive hugs-
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Thank YOU for understanding that that was what I wanted to do here – share the joy in and of my mom‘s life. XOXO
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You did that, and your mother’s memory will live on in us as well. -massive hugs-
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This Is So Heartfelt And Amazing At The Same Time.
I am sorry for your loss
Beautiful memories you shared with your mom💛
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My mom and I were quite a team of doing silly things together. So many stories. She was the boss and the ‘take charge’ one and I was the one following along just shaking my head. 😚 Thank you for your condolences. 💜
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My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Her soul is resting easy. 🙂
This is such a beautiful post and she must be smiling down at you, and will forever hold you in the palm of her hands.
God bless you.
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Thank you for your beautiful words of comfort. Yes, I do believe my mom is smiling at my words and feeling the love. 💜
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My thoughts are with you and your family for this heartbreaking loss. This is a beautiful tribute to your mother and I hope she’s looking down, beaming with pride.
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Thank you so much for your words! My mom was my biggest fan in everything I did, including my writing. So I think she’s clapping her hands. 🤗💖
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Pamela, this is too sad. And very sad too that you couldn’t be with you Mother. All condolences to you and family. May her dear soul rest in peace, and may you and family be comforted that she is safe in the arms of heaven. A lovely tribute to her life and memory.
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I so appreciate your words here Susan. Thank you! The memories run deep and will always soothe and help my loss. She was remarkable and unforgettable! 💜
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Such a beautiful tribute to your mother, Pam. Your heart is in each and every word. Thank you for sharing your pain and the joy. ❤ ❤ ❤
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Your comment makes me feel so good, Jill. That is what I wanted to do-show my love through my words. Thank you! 🙏💜
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What lovely sentiments! Pam, I am deeply sorry for your loss.
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Thank you for your condolences, Cindy. 🙏
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What a lovely tribute. May light and peace surround you now. 💕
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My mom was a beacon of light to so many. I believe that she still shines. Thank you! 🙏
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I believe she does too.
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Beautiful, Pam. A heart-warming and heart-breaking poem and tribute to your mom. I’m so sorry for your loss and hate for that to happen during this pandemic, where loved ones die alone. It’s a sad world – but full of happy memories. Hugs!
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It can be a sad world, Liesbet, but oh the joy that the most meaningful relationships in our lives sink into our hearts forever. 💜
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Pam, ❤ for your beautiful words and moving tribute to your wonderful Mum, ❤ I see her roller skating in her new realm as her love is always with you. ❤ ❤
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You are so right, Jane. The photo of my mom rollerblading when she was in her early 70s says it all! Such a force of life. And still a force of love… in death. 🙏
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❤ much <3, Pam. Xx
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Thank you for sharing your memories of your remarkable mother (and the photos, too) in this lovely, tribute. I feel like I know your mother just a little bit–what a vital, active woman she was–and quite a character it seems! The not being able to have been there–not any family member–makes it extra difficult, I know. Well, you know I can empathize. And as you said to me, there is some comfort in sharing this grief in words set down on screen or paper. Sending you virtual hugs.
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I feel like I have shared this journey a bit with you, Merrill. Both of us so close to our moms and in pain as we saw their bodies and minds diminish a little bit at a time. So as much as we wanted to be there with them when they passed on to a new place, we both know that they are love. 💜
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Thank you for sharing these wonderful memories you and your mom created, Pam. Her life was full of joy and very well-lived. I’m sorry you couldn’t be with her the way you wanted to be but I know the spirits of her loved ones were there. May the protection of the ancestors be yours… ♡ hugs ♡
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You say this so beautifully, Barbara. In the last couple of months of my mom‘s life every once in a while she saw her sister-who predeceased her by a little over year. I always hoped that meant her loved ones would be there waiting for her when the passing came. I think that was true. 🙏💜
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I have no doubt your mom’s loved ones were waiting for her. My father saw my deceased mother many times before he died. And when my mother left us many years before that, she was looking at her grandparents as she passed on and as my sister and I held her hands. (Her parents were still alive.) It was a powerful experience. 💗
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Outstanding memories that made me smile. Happy Mother’s Day weekend to you, Hope all is well. Stay safe.
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This is fantastic to read, Frank. I didn’t want to write a sad tribute but to show the joy and fun in my mom‘s life. She had a ball before she took ill. We all miss her joie de vivre so much. 💜
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i am so very sorry for your loss, and what a wonderful, wonderful tribute and. memorial to your mother.
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Believe me, Beth, I had about 110 more adventures to write about but not enough space in this post. 😛 thank you for your warm heartfelt condolences. 💖
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A lovely tribute to your mum, Pam. Keep hold of all your wonderful memories.
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Always. 🙏 Thank you, Mary.
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How lovely. Touching to my heart. We never met but I can tell she and I would have gotten along!! Hugs
Best Regards,
Nancy
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Nancy-are you and my mom would’ve been laughing and dancing in the room together for hours! 😉
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Such heartbreaking circumstances. I would say that words fail, but yours are beautiful.
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Many thanks Arlene. I find that through grief my words help as I recount the adventures with my mom. XOXO
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Condolences on your loss. You’ve written a beautiful tribute to your mother. I hope that on this Mother’s Day you find some comfort in knowing she cared about you then, leaving you with wonderful memories now.
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Happy Mother’s Day to you, Ally! Our memories of our moms and our children’s of us last longer than a lifetime. 🌈💖
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I am so sorry for your loss. But so grateful for such a loving tribute and the life that built up to this tribute, My sympathies to you and your family. ❤
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So true – my tribute and those of us who celebrate our moms are based on great gratitude. 🙏💗
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Dearest Pam, instead of pressing the like button there should be one for hugs … sending you lots of virtual ones from across the ocean. ❤️ I am so saddened to learn about your mother’s passing, tear-eyed as I read your heart-moving tribute to your amazing mom and friend. Her zest for life shines through, her sense of fun and adventure carried on through you. Keep these memories especially close in the coming days, months and years … with much love, Annika xx ❤️
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I actually can feel your hugs, Annika. Memories of the ones we love are sunk deep in our souls forever. 🙏🌈 Happy Mother’s Day!
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An awesome and heartfelt tribute to a Wonderful Mother who is always there no matter what. Such lovely pictures and she has only passed away in her old body that had to move on but she is always there with you and your family in Spirit. Too good.
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My mom had such an incredibly lively spirit that I believe you’re absolutely right. It will live on forever. Thank you! 🙏💜
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This is such a beautiful and touching tribute to your mother Pam. Clearly, you had a loving relationship and hold her in your heart. May grace be with you. Hugs
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Thank you for your beautiful comment, Brad. Yes, my mom and I have/had an incredible bond that I think can never be taken apart. 💜
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Wonderful!
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Oh, what a heart wrenching ode to your Mom who gave so much love. Your memories bring back my own Mom and the laughter and tears that still come unbidden.
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I am grateful that my own poetic memories here of my mom brought great memories to you of your mom. Our memories will never ever fade, nor will our love. 💜
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A lovely tribute to your mom, Pam.
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Thanks Becky. 🙏
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Oh Pam, what a moving tribute this is to your precious Mom!! So very sorry for your loss, there are tears in my eyes. Hugs and prayers from the heart! ❤ ❤
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I was reluctant to share my heartfelt words about my mom out here in the blogosphere. But, instead, wonderful friends like you have gathered those words inside your own hearts and helped me in my loss. Thank you ! 💜❤️
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You are most welcome!! Glad you received so much love! ❤❤
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Such a beautiful and moving tribute to the love you shared. ❤
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Thank you Sue. A tribute that encapsulated many many wonderful years as mother and daughter. 🙏
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You can see that, Pamela x
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(((A hug for you))) ❤
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Thank you! 🤗
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Oh Pamela!! I’m so so sorry… I absolutely loved the beautiful memory trail. I will keep you and your family in prayer through this difficult time. Love and peace my friend 🙏❤
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“Memory trail” – what a beautiful description of what I tried to do here, Kim. Thank you! 🙏
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Beautiful. I am weeping with you, my friend. What a beautiful tribute to someone who was clearly an amazing woman and mother.
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You describe what I tried to show here so well, Elizabeth. My mom was amazing and wonderful and I lucked out being her daughter. xo
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Oh Pam. I’m so sad. I feel like I’ve walked beside you for a tiny part of this journey. You’ve shared your love for your mom is such poignant ways and with such lovely memories that you both captured my heart. I’m sending you loads of love while I share a few tears over here. Hugs, my friend. ❤
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Thank you for the tears and the loads of love, Diana. Yes we have walked this walk together. May your walk last longer! 💖
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Thank you Pam for sharing the Mother May I vignettes. As a former Chapter H member I met Nadine years ago when she would come to visit in Wilmington and even after we moved to Florida your Mom and I always roomed together at International Conventions. Oh the good times we had. I am blessed with wonderful memories of Marcia. Lil Rea
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Oh how I loved hearing the stories from my mom about the fun times when you two were together. How she loved your company! Thank you for sharing your hug here, Lil Rae
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A beautiful tribute to your love for your mom, Pamula. I am so sorry for your loss and pray you can take comfort in the great life you shared.
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Thank you for your words here, John. Yes I take great comfort in the memories of our mother- daughter times together. 🙏
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Your Mom is with my Mom and they are having a ball watching the cartoon play out here on our tiny orb…love them, miss them, and, one day, we join them… Hugs and Kisses, good ‘Warrior’!
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What a great scenario, Billy Ray. Thank you for the love and hugs filled with sympathy and understanding. xo
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She sounds like a wonderful character with a zest for life.
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You describe it exactly, Robin. My mom had a huge overwhelming zest for life. 💜 Thanks for being here.
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Pam, I’m sorry for your recent loss under these extreme conditions. You have wonderful memories to help get you through!
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Good memories are smiles in our mind. Thank you! 🙏
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Oh Pam, the tears dropped from my lids as I read this. My heart goes out to you. I understand that with dementia, family members grieve even before they lose the loved one, because in a sense, they’ve lost their loved one before death. Now you must grieve again. My heart just breaks for you. I can imagine how you feel not being able to be there. You are the second person I know who has lost their mom and was unable to be there through this lockdown.
My mom is in a facility. She doesn’t have dementia, but she has other very serious health issues. We haven’t seen her in 3 months.
Your mom remembers everything now. She’s once again that woman who yelled at that cop.
Sending hugs of comfort through the screen. 💗
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Lori – your words hit the target. I have grieved for my mom for the past five years as she’s lost her essence. And now I grieve once again at my loss. However, I am also joyful that she is once again herself. She is probably directing the traffic of Angels! 😁 I send huge wishes that your mom will be safe and comfortable in her facility. 🙏
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Hugs. 💗
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These memories..heartfelt and heartbreaking. xoxo
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Thank you for your comforting friendship, Susan. It means so much! ❤️
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Your lovely words brought a lump in my throat Pam. I love how you celebrate her life with your memories. Sending you soothing hugs across the pacific. May her soul rest in peace.
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Your hugs and your words here are soothing, Balroop. Thank you! 🙏
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What a beautiful tribute that brought tears to my eyes. I’m very sorry for your loss, Pam.
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Thank you for your condolences. A mother’s love never dies. 💜
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Oh, Pam! My heart hurts with you. It took a bit to stop my tears so I could let you know you have my heartfelt sympathy for your loss. This is a beautiful tribute to someone it sounds like might have been quite the character. Your love shines through and not being with her must be the hardest part of all. Sending hugs.
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Thank you for your sincere and heartfelt sympathy. Yes, my mom was quite the character with many friends and admirers. I’m sure she has many more now in her new domain of love. 💜
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I am very sorry for your loss, Pam. I know it’s been said many times but a Mother’s love is forever engraved on our hearts and her love is passed along through her children. That was such a beautiful memorial for your Mom. Take care and be safe. . . .
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Thank you for your kind and heartfelt words. Love never dies. 🙏💜
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Oh, I’m so sad for you….and you’ve given your mum a lovely, loving tribute
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My mom was my biggest fan in all of my writing. I wish she could read this tribute and all the beautiful comments here. Thank you! 🙏
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Oh, Pam, I’m crying, but what a beautiful tribute to your mother. So sorry. I know she had a hard time this last stretch and I know you were far away and helpless to do anything more for her than you did. She sounds like a lovely and feisty woman. I know I would have loved her if I’d met her.
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Anneli, you and my mom would have gotten along like hotcakes on a skillet! 🤓
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I think so too!
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I’m so sorry, my heart goes out to you and your family. This is a beautiful tribute to your mother.
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Many thanks for your condolences. Thank you so much for reading my post here. 🙏💙
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Oh, Pam, this brought tears to me eyes. What a lovely, lovely tribute to your Mom. I’m so sorry for your loss and that you couldn’t be with her in her final days/hours. I have no doubt she approves with many loving smiles of what you’ve written, and now with her soul/memory returned, loves you all the more.
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I am so grateful that my mom’s essence is alive and probably laughing at the memories of our stories! 🙏
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I have no doubt!
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My dear Pam, I “paged” through dozens of comforting comments on my way to post my heartfelt condolences. You and your mother had a long goodbye due to the nature of her illness, but no closure. That is the saddest thing, not being with her at the very end.
Your title is sweet and nostalgic. I remember playing “Mother, May I?” in school during recess. In fact, there’s a Wikipedia entry about the game.
May you feel the comfort of friends and family during this sad time. Virtual hugs to you! ((( )))
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When I started writing this on the day that my mom was dying and I couldn’t be there, the first phrase that came to my mind was “Mother May I.” I don’t know why but it helped lead me on to our memories and stories. Thank you so much Marian for all of your heartfelt condolences. 💙
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Pam, I am so sorry for your loss. So utterly heartbroken for you. That you’re left with “Mother May I” memories will hold you tenderly throughout the years…
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The memories of my mom and our love will never ever leave me. Thank you Kathy! xo
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Dear Pam,
Beautiful tribute to your dear mother.
In sympathy and love 💕
Jeanette
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Thank you Jeanette. Thinking of you and hope you are well ensconced with your family. XOXO
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Oh, Pam, your beautiful words and tribute to your mom brought tears, especially reading that you weren’t able to be with her. The photos are all so precious, loving the one of her rollerblading the best. I hope with time the hurt will dissipate and the wonderful memories and love you hold for her in your heart will rise to the surface forever. Sending virtual comforting hugs, Lauren 💕
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The photo of my mom rollerblading when she was in her 70s tells it all, Lauren! Thank you for your sympathy and virtual hugs.
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Dear Pam – This beautiful tribute brought many tears to my eyes.
Sending warm hugs to you and your family.
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The hugs and heartfelt condolences are felt and greatly appreciated. xo
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So sorry for the loss of your Mom Pam…and yes, the added sorrow of not being able to say a proper goodbye. I do believe though that it is not what we do at the end but what we did during a lifetime that matters most and what is taken into the next world. May your Mom RIP and may your heart be light…xoxo
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Your words are comforting, Cheryl, and hit my heart just right. I agree – who we are during our lifetime is what we take with us to the next place. ❤
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I am so sorry that your mother made her transition and I pray she is filled with joy. My heart breaks for you. Thank you for sharing your beautiful memories with us.Such a beautiful tribute to a special woman! Sending my love and hugs!
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THANK you for your love and hugs, Patricia. I like your word “transitioned,” for my mom’s spirit has certainly not disappeared – it’s all around me. ❤
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I agree. Our spirit or soul carries our spiritual DNA. I have been through so many deaths in the past 10 years, and I believe our death is really a “birthing into spirit” and who we really are. You and I just aren’t able to see or know that dimension yet.
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I like the way you think. Or should I say “feel.“ To our Beings. ❤️
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Hugs and prayers for you and all the family, dear Pam… There’s no one like Mother and your thoughts here unfold your love story for your dear one. ❤ 🙏
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Thank you, Bette. I have written so many stories over the years about my mom – a lightening bug of a spirit who landed light on everyone she met. ❤
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That is so precious, Pam… ❤ xo
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Wishing you healing and peace with the loss of your mom, and all the added hardship that comes with that during this time. It’s a tremendous gift to share your memories and reflections with us in the way you have here. With gentle hurt, and grace, too. I’m grateful to you and feel reminded and inspired of how much art soothes us. With much love and compassion ~
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You’ve helped relieve me about opening up my heart on this post. I’m so grateful for those here who have accepted my “memories and reflections” as an act of love. Many, many thanks. xo
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I am so sorry, Pam! How hard it is to be separated from our loved ones at times like this. My prayers are with you and your family xxxx
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Thank you for your prayers and understanding, Clare. Oh how I miss the woman/mother/friend my mom was to me. But her time was done here, and I’m sure she’s enlivening all the souls she’s encountering now. 🙂
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So much of this sounds familiar, Pamela, though I did get to comfort my mom through her final stages of dementia. I was incredibly grateful that she never lost her pleasant demeanor and sweet disposition. We still laughed when she could hardly keep anything straight in her head. Now we’re going through it again. My mother-in-law is ninety-four and hasn’t recognized any of her children in five years. We can’t visit her in her care home because of the virus. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss.
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Ohhh, Pete. I FEEL your understanding. It was a grace and blessing that you were able to comfort your mom in her dementia and passing. I extend sympathy to you wife and family as you watch the slow unraveling of your mother-in-law’s spirit. The “saving grace” I share with you is that I know that my mom’s true spirit is revived now, in total peace and joy.
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So very beautiful and tender, Pam. Dementia took my mother too. Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
Happy Mother’s Day. ❤
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We are kindred “spirits,” Jennifer, in knowing the horror of dementia, but also the great joy when our moms’ spirits are released from that pain and once again whole with love.
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I try not to remember her that way. I strive to keep her in my heart and mind as the strong and wonderful person she was for most of her life.
Kindred spirits. I love that, Pam.💞
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You and your mother were blessed to have each other for so many years. This was a beautiful tribute to a woman who must have been quite remarkable. I’m not a bit surprised that you, with your huge heart and strength, were able to pen such a gorgeous remembrance of her to share with your friends and loved ones. Thank you for this tiny glimpse into your mother’s legacy and may God keep you and strengthen you on Mother’s Day. ❤ Lots of love.
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Oh my, Amy, you’ve made my eyes leak with your beautiful words. THANK YOU. Yes, I was so fortunate to have those years with my mom when we laughed and played and oh my, sometimes she would annoy the heck out of me with her socializing (she was the social one, I the quiet one). She was loved by so many because of her lively spirit, and from that, I’ve learned difference can be the binding rope of love.
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Oh Pam. I am so sorry to read this and for the loss of your mother. I know too well how it feels, but so much harder for you during these times. These are wonderful memories. Your mother sounds like she was a terrific mother and friend to you and your children and family. Sending love.
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To not be there for the final goodbye was so hard, but now, in retrospect, I realize that there IS no final goodbye. My mom’s spirit is all around, and the responses to my blog post here are a great example. 🙂 ❤
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Hi Pam – I understand how you are feeling. Until we know better, I think we expect that there will be time for a final conversation with a loved one. Sadly, even when I was there, their illnesses prevented that, both times. I think you’re right, there is no final goodbye, but the spirit is always there. Take care.
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Oh, Pam. I’m so sorry. It’s hard to lose the ones we love . . . even though they live on in our hearts and memories. Glad you have so many wonderful memories of your times together. Peace.
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Fabulous memories are memorials to a great relationship, and my mom and I had an amazing one. Thank you, Nancy. xo
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Oh no… Pam, I’m so very sorry to hear this horribly sad news. My heart goes out to you. Sending you the biggest hug in the world. ❤
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Thank you for your hugs and condolences, Teagan. As the pain of loss weakens, the realization comes that our loved ones are never lost – they’re always still there in memories and smiles and always-felt love. ❤
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I am so very sorry, Pam. Such a sad time and it is so hard not to be able to visit and say goodbye. Hugs.
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Thanks, Robbie. Hugs returned. ❤
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I’ve always enjoyed the stories about your mother, Pam. The Golden Gate bridge one is new for me — that’s what you call classy chutzpah! – Marty
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Haha. “Classy Chutzpah” is a perfect phrase for my mom. She had both. 🙂 ❤
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I’m so sorry for your loss! Your love for your mother, and her love for you, comes through every line of this touching poem. I wish you could have been there at the end, but I also believe that she felt your love and she was “welcomed home” by other loved ones that has passed on before her. Peace to you…..
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I believe the same thing, Ann, and as I got over my own pain of not being there, I realized that my mom knew I was ALWAYS “there.” Thank you. xo
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Hi again, Pam – I just saw this in my other Reader on WordPress and was thinking about you..
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xoxo
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This is a beautiful tribute to your Mum, Pam. I am so sorry for your loss, especially with it occurring at this time when you were unable to be with her to say farewell the way you would have expected. I love your memories of her, but I especially love your wish for her to be met with love by those who have gone before. Take care, my lovely. Sad days. Happy memories. Hugs.
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Thank you Norah. I’ve been with other relatives at their passing when days before they talked of seeing their ancestors. It’s a comfort to them and to those of us who are there to help them say their final goodbyes. 🙏
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It is. Gives a little more meaning to our days on Earth. Hugs. 💖
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What a lovely tribute to your mom, and testament to your relationship. I’m sorry you could not be there in her last moments, but I believe your love for each other transcends all and all things are made clear as we move to a higher realm. The pictures show a life well lived with lots of love for all. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Anna Marie
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Thank you Anna Marie. Our conversations in the past about our moms have helped me as I navigated this last part of her life here on Earth. 🙏💖
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Mother, May I….say thank you for all of the memories that I hold in my heart, smile though my tears, and cherish beyond measure.
Pam, May I… say thank you to you. How you share yourself so openly and so honestly not only in this love-piece to your mom but to all of us with your heart and talents.
To all Mothers, May I…. say BLESSINGS and Happy Mother’s Day!
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My love did pour forth with these words Joyce. And you know how that goes. To memories and writing down our stories for eternity. 🙏
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Oh Pam, I am so sorry for your loss and the circumstances in which you lost your mother. Take good care of yourself .
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I know how much you miss your mom and how much your love is always there, Gerlinde. Blessings to both of our moms. 💜💜
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Dear Pam, was that your Mom on Rollerblades!!! I hope that you feel like sharing more of your adventures as time passes. I am finding that not being able to say farewell as we wish makes the process not only longer, but I hope all the sweeter. You have shared both hers and your courage
with your tender words. May her memory always be a blessing. And may Mother’s Day memories
sooth us all. Be Well.
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Yes, Nyanna, that was my mom on rollerblades when she was in her 70s! Great proof of her spirit. Thank you for your beautiful condolences.
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I would have loved hanging out with your mother. Her spirit fills the void.
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Everyone who hung out with my mom had a good time, Lisa! To lively and heartfelt spirits. 🙏💜
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I’m so sorry to hear about your loss Pam, which must be so much more difficult in the current circumstances. But you have wonderful memories and it was a pleasure to share them with you.
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Thank you for reading this post and allowing me to share my mother memories with you, Andrea. As you know, writing our thoughts and our love helps so much. 💜
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Beautiful dedication and I’m so very sorry for your loss.
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Thank you for your condolences and for joining me here on my blog post. 🙏
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Such a beautiful tribute to your mother…I am so sorry for your loss. I know that she is smiling in heaven to have such a wonderful daughter. The best legacy we can leave behind is love… the blessings keep unfolding through the years and are never forgotten. It is as if the love just keeps growing and growing…
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I think you are absolutely right, Linda. The Love seems to grow and bloom ever brighter. ❤️💜
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Oh Pam—what a love letter to your dear Mom!
“They whom we love and lose are no longer where they were before..
They are now…wherever we are. ❤️
Happy Mother’s Day, dear friend
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That is a beautiful quote, Pat. And I take it to heart. 💗Thank you!
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Oh, Pam… Tears for you and the family Tears for Marcia who had such gusto Tears for the loss of taht wonderful spirit… xoxo Sasha
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Thank you so much Sasha. Gusto is a great word for my mom’s being- she was full of it!
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So very sorry for your loss. Beautiful poem for your lovely mum. Hugs, and deepest condolences. Marje x
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Many thanks for your condolences, Marje. 🙏💙
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Lovely tribute for your mom. Thinking of you and your family. I trust she was met and embraced by love from late family and friends. Hugs.
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I sure hope so, Sabra! Many thanks for reading my poetic tribute to my mom. 💜
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I’m not afraid to tell you, I needed Kleenex for this one Pam. I’m so sorry for your loss. This most touching telling gave me a great indication of what a wonderful mother you were gifted. Wishing you peace in this most difficult time of difficult times. Please stay safe. And may I add a touch of humor? I was laughing out loud at the verse about the cats. I have that same fear as cats hate me and I’ve been attacked and held hostage 5 times by cats – so no, you would have never got me in that car! Your mom was a true warrior woman! LOL ❤ xxx
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I thank you, Deb, for giving me a laugh as we talk (write) about cats. My mom knew nothing about cats and when she put them in my car I cannot tell you the mess that ensued. We had to have the car auto detailed! 😲🤭😏🤪
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Lol Pam, I can only imagine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂 🙂
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Pam – what an amazing tribute to your mom. She would be so proud of your creative spirit. My condolences for your loss made especially difficult by social distancing. I enjoyed meeting you at the Chapter NE book club.
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Thank you so much for reading my “mom poem,” Pamela, and visiting my blog. Yes, Marcia was an amazing P.E.O. sister. And, she was my biggest fan, always urging me to write my stories, loving every one (even when they were about her!). 🙂
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Pam, Through blurry eyes I read your lovely poem, a tribute to your Mom.
The huge reminder how a person’s life is not just the end of their days. It is a life lived full. A legacy.
The memories we have of our parents, our Mothers, you remind me how it is often not the large events we remember.
Missed ‘you’re YOU’ tugged at my heart.
I know your Mom will forever kiss your hand as you squeeze her hand. ❤️ (Pam, I commented again, since my original comment disappeared…it happens, sometimes) Hugs ❤️
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Beautiful comments, here, Erica. THANK YOU. Yes, it’s not the large events. The ordinary is always the most extraordinary, and my mom and I shared many extraordinary times. 🙂 Many thanks for commenting until it “stuck” here. Your words comfort. xo
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Thinking of you today especially as we cherish a very special friend and sister, your Mom. I will always remember our day in Tiburon, having lunch when you both were visiting….and the great memories that are once again with me. I loved your stories, Pam, and thanks for sharing this beautiful tribute. Much love and comfort to you today and always. Ruth
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So many memories and fun times you and Marica shared, Ruth. I’m also grateful for that lunch at Piatti’s. Good friends/sisters forever enjoying each other. ❤
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Oh Pam… I am so so sorry you lost your mom…and that you couldn’t be with her. The time you spent with her was always so joyous. I am so glad that you had the time with her that you did but it doesn’t make it any easier.
I loved reading your poem and miss you so much. I wish I could be there with you to take a walk and not say anything. And yes, I know, we’d have to be 6 feet apart, but still…
I am thinking of you, holding your heart and sending you time and space to feel.
Your mother was so fortunate to have you in her life and she in yours.
I know there’s nothing that I can do but if I can, let me know how I can help.
Thank you for your beautiful words…always.
Shannon
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A walk around Walden Pond would be perfect, Shannon, but I’ll close my eyes and pretend. I understand (and you’ve helped me do that) how fortunate I was/am to have had so much time with my mom. Love to you, xo
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A beautiful tribute – so sorry for your loss.
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Many thanks for reading my “mom poem” and for your condolences. ❤
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Such a poignant poem Pam.. I am so sorry for your loss my friend.. But I know you both continue to share that love bond that will never break.. Not Time, nor Space… For you are united in love throughout all time..
Such a wonderful tribute Pam….
Love and well wishes your way ❤
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Unbreakable bond for sure. Pain and joy combined in the missing and yet the knowing that the Spirit is free. ❤
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Oh Pam I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you not being able to be with your Mom. So many loving moments shared. Sending my heartfelt sympathy and huge hugs to you.
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Thank you, Sue. I wish I’d written this for my mom to read when she was still alive and could understand this poem, but you know what? I think she knows every heartfelt word in some form or another. ❤
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I think you are right Pam. There are connections beyond what we can comprehend.
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Pam — I enjoyed reading this lovely tribute to your mother.
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Thank you, Laurie. Amazingly, I JUST commented on your last post before seeing you here. :-0 xo
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Pam — And visa Versa. Synchronicity! 🙂
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I like being on the same “wave length” as you. ❤
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Pam — Me too, you! 🙂
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother, Pam. It’s especially hard when you couldn’t be with her. I know how much you wanted to be by her side until she took the last breath. You wanted to hold her hand, stroke her forehead, and kiss her cheek and be there to say goodbye. You know that she could hear you. What a great tribute you shared in this post. The precious memories keep your heart warm. ❤
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Thank you, Miriam. Yes, I experienced so much angst, not being able to be with my mom to comfort her in her last days. I hope she felt my spirit hugging hers on her journey to “the other side.” I’ll tell you this, she has sent me many signs letting me know that she is okay – in fact, she is in PEACE and JOY. ❤
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You’re welcome, Pam. I think you’re right that your mom sent you many signs to let you know she was okay. She knew you wanted to be there for her. I don’t know if she was aware of the restriction of travel, but she didn’t want you to worry about her. What a comfort to know she’s in peace and joy. ❤
In several situations, I found that the ones passing actually were concerned more for the ones they left behind. In fact, I told one person to give permission for his mom to go. I happened to find out that the angel came to pick her up two times but she didn't go. The second time, she told me she was going "home" the following Monday. And she did. Probably it was the third time the angel came back to pick her up. ❤
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Beautiful tribute to your Mother!
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Thank you, Mark.
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Oh Pam. I am so sorry to read that your mother’s spirit passed on recently. What a beautiful tribute to her. I am late getting to this post and my heart goes out to you.
My mother of 84 recently miraculously recovered from COVID. It was such a challenging time for my whole family, especially as my father passed on recently in November. I was not ready to lose my mom. And of course it appears she was not ready to go either…
I think the hardest part of the pandemic in my humble opinion is that the elderly are alone and that they are dying alone without their close loved ones close by. Thankfully I was there for my father, we all were.. and what a difference that made.
Thinking of you and sending heartfelt love your way,
Peta (& Ben)
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Thank you for your condolences and reaction to my “poem to my mom.” I think you’re so right. My mom had been ailing (through dementia) for several years and I think ready to leave her body. But dying from Covid was a horrible way to go, and most horrible was she had to be alone. Certainly difficult for me. Blessings to your mom for making it through the disease, Peta. ❤
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I am so sorry to hear of your mother’s death and how you couldn’t be there because the pandemic… Sadly, I have had to deal with situations like yours a number of times over the past 3 months. Your tribute to your mother was touching.
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So nice of you to read my “mom tribute.” I can’t tell you how much it helped to write this to her while she was dying, and I couldn’t be there. In some strange wonderful way, I knew she was with me while I wrote. I would recommend to anyone who is preparing to say goodbye to a loved one, write a ‘letter’ to them in some way. The loving sentiments are received. I pray that you receive strength, courage, and love as you help others on this path. Again, thanks so much for comments.
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Thank you for sharing those beautiful memories about you and your mother.
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Writing out our love and sadness is always a beautiful sharing ceremony. Thank you so much for reading and commenting ❣️
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